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Throughout my career, I’ve met a particularly interesting boss. When I say “interesting,” it’s actually a euphemism. The real feeling was: from initial enthusiasm, to later entanglement, and finally to distancing myself.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Today I want to share this story with you, and what I learned from it.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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First Meeting: Unusually Enthusiastic<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Our acquaintance was quite accidental.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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That year at the Shanghai Packaging Exhibition, I was exhibiting with a former colleague. His new company was near our booth, making end-of-line packaging equipment like case sealers<\/strong><\/a> and strapping machines. When I had time, I went over to say hello.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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His new boss, L, enthusiastically came over and proactively added me on WeChat. At that time, I thought this boss was very warm and had the typical characteristics of a Chinese domestic sales person. Later it was confirmed that he was a boss who started by running the Pearl River Delta market himself.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Objectively speaking, this was a remarkable boss: not highly educated, self-made, and able to achieve his current scale\u2014he definitely had his capabilities.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But something interesting happened.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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First Unusual Sign: Holiday Greetings<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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A boss who would send me greetings during holidays and festivals.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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In China, a country with thousands of years of hierarchical tradition, it’s very rare for a boss to proactively send greetings to an unrelated outsider. So I confirmed again: this boss is not simple\u2014either he’s genuinely good-natured, or he has some purpose.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Later it turned out to be the latter.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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First Test: Introducing Clients to Me<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Once, he said he wanted to introduce some clients to me.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But his clients were all domestic sales, which I couldn’t accept. I politely said: “Thank you for your recommendation. I’ll pass the clients you recommended to our domestic sales colleagues for follow-up.”<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Why did I say that?<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Because over the years, our export and domestic sales teams have always had a consensus: <\/span><\/span>Export sales won’t put energy into domestic clients, and domestic sales won’t touch export clients. This is their cake, we don’t touch it. Everyone maintains balance\u2014that’s the way to get along and maximize company interests.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Although the Chinese market is large, it can’t compare to the world. The sales team must divide the work well. Don’t hurt feelings and miss markets for short-term small benefits, ultimately ending in chaos.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But when he heard my answer, I clearly felt unhappiness from the other end of the phone.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I could sense his emotions: ungrateful, not appreciating the favor.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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This was the first time I felt that he seemed to be using these things to get close to me, with a purpose.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Second Test: Frequent Dinner Invitations<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Later he took on a packaging line system<\/strong><\/a> project for a large new factory near us and often passed by our company. He would send a message when passing by, inviting me to dinner.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Honestly, I don’t like having dinner with bosses.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I think people doing export sales are a bit “proud” compared to those doing domestic sales. Because we focus more on substantive work and don’t like to spend our main energy at the dinner table.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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The logic of foreign clients is:<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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