{"id":11414,"date":"2025-12-07T16:06:19","date_gmt":"2025-12-07T16:06:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fill-package.com\/?p=11414"},"modified":"2025-12-08T14:46:24","modified_gmt":"2025-12-08T14:46:24","slug":"tai-sao-nhung-hoc-sinh-gioi-nhat-lai-kho-chap-nhan-viec-nhung-ban-cung-lop-khong-gioi-bang-gio-lai-thanh-cong-hon-ho","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fill-package.com\/vi\/the-top-students-bug-why-cant-we-accept-that-classmates-who-werent-as-good-are-now-more-successful\/","title":{"rendered":"L\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecdc sinh gi\u1ecfi nh\u1ea5t: T\u1ea1i sao ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng b\u1ea1n h\u1ecdc kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ecfi b\u1eb1ng b\u00e2y gi\u1edd l\u1ea1i th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng h\u01a1n?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I recently ran into an old classmate, Q. During our chat, we talked about another classmate, L. This conversation made me think a lot and helped me discover a bug that many “former top students” have.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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A True Story<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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L was my classmate in middle school. Back then, his grades were okay\u2014decent in science, but just above average. In high school, he was in Class 3 or 4 (I can’t remember exactly), while Q and I were in Class 1.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Our grade had about 10 classes. Classes 1-2 were the top classes, 3-4 were second-tier, and 5-10 were regular classes. Q and I had always done well in middle school, often ranking in the top of our grade, so we naturally got into Class 1 in high school.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Back then, we all thought that with L’s grades, his future would probably be… well, just okay.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But more than ten years later, things turned out completely different.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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L is now the vice principal of the school our kids attend. And Q and me? While we’re doing alright, career-wise we’re clearly not as successful as L. I can’t say 100% about income, but at least in terms of reputation and social status, we’re definitely not on his level.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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A Conversation That Made Me Think<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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I recently bumped into Q, and as two moms, our conversation naturally turned to our kids’ education. When she mentioned the school, she brought up L.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Q:<\/span> “Can you believe L became the vice principal of our kids’ school? Do you know what subject he teaches?”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Me:<\/span> “No idea. We don’t really interact much\u2014just say hi when we see each other. I only found out he was vice principal after my kid enrolled.”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Q:<\/span> “Well, this school has so many vice principals, I don’t even know what they all do.”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Me:<\/span> “They must have their own responsibilities. One evening when I was picking up my kid, I saw him arranging transportation for the district exams.” (In our area, major exams are held at centralized locations, and schools usually arrange buses)<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Q:<\/span> “Just arranging buses?”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Me:<\/span> “Not sure. We haven’t seen each other in years\u2014I can’t just ask him ‘what do you teach?'”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Q:<\/span> “True. But I really don’t know what he could teach.”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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At this point, I couldn’t help but notice the sourness in her tone.<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Q:<\/span> “The teachers at their school are so quiet, they don’t say anything. They never communicate in the group chat.”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Me:<\/span> “I think the teachers are fine. Have you met them in person? From what I’ve seen, science teachers tend to be quieter\u2014typical engineer types. Liberal arts teachers are usually more talkative.”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Q:<\/span> “Oh right, my kid’s homeroom teacher teaches physics.”<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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What Did I Hear?<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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From this conversation, I picked up on a very subtle emotion: <\/span><\/span>resentment<\/span><\/span>.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Resentment about what? Resentment that someone who didn’t do as well as us in school is now more successful.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Every sentence Q said carried this emotion:<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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